Infuriating freedom

My brother just filed bankruptcy and I have a major issue with that.  That boy is pushing 30 and together with his wife makes about 100g.  That income went down after a market-induced layoff, so for three months they weren't making AS MUCH.  But seriously, they buy whatever they want whenever they want.  I'm talking brand new house with all the upgrades (via some help from dad- I swear dad got molested out of his thousands), motorcycleS, a boat, a big screen COMPUTER and TV, all the latest gadgets, fancy new furniture, blahblahblah.... .  So he can't recover from a 3 month pay cut?  He can't pay for anything anymore.   WHATEVER!  Its a quick fix.  Its the easy and incredibly dishonest way out.  He'll get to keep most of his stuff, maybe all.  The creditors have to go out of their way to get things back and they usually don't.  He'll for sure get to keep the smaller luxuries bought on his credit card.  And if he keeps paying on the big stuff, he could be assured to keep those as well.  Slap on the wrist.  And a slap in the face for all of us hard working, penny-pinching, debt paying, honest folk.

Sex: Apparently I'm supposed to like it

Yeah, I'll say it.  I hate sex.  I'm happily married.  I was a virgin when I got married at age 25.  I have quite conservative values.  I made out with many a guy and thought I couldn't wait for sex. What the????.  UGHHHHH!!!!!  My husband is horny allll the time.  Anything turns him on.  I could brush past him wearing a smelly mumu and he'd get a boner.   Why would that flatter me?  I'm just a hole to put it in.   About those boners:  disgusting.  This appendage freaking GROWS!  And gets HARD.  And it becomes predatory.  "MUST HUMP.  MUST HUMP." And then it vomits.  Are you kidding me???  This is what I waited for???  Not to mention that hungry, distant look in his eye as he "goes."  Why does this consume his thoughts and desires?  I just don't get it.  I do orgasm with a little electric help.  And a lot of mental escaping.  But I don't crave it and I usually whip out the Magic Wand cause it turns him on.  Sometimes I count till its over.  BTW, my husband is not suffering.  He gets his.  Oddly enough, I was never molested or abused sexually, but I sure have some bitterness.  I feel like a piece of meat.  A HUGE percentage of crimes are sexually driven AND predominantly by men.  Dirty men.  Rapists, pedophiles, peeping-toms, adulterers, man-whores, etc...... .  They can't seem to control themselves.  And I have to suspect that men are in charge of the media distortion of sex.  Sex is NOTHING like you see in movies.  And how many men are tricked into believing that women want it, need it, crave it just as much as men?  All the girls on tv do, right?  Truth is, in my circles, its an open topic and only a minority of my female friends do more than tolerate sex.  The fact is that 40-some percent of women have some sort of sexual disorder.  They have to WORK to enjoy it and get past something!  And another huge percent are just "whatever" to it.  They might like it when it starts but don't crave it.  Some may actually like it.  But despite what TV says, very few are nypho's or women who even come close to having the typical male desire (although I have one friend who loves it and says she has movie sex with her husband).  So why do loads of women work to like something we inherantly don't?  For the men that we love.  Somehow we understand they need it so we try to give it.  But talk about an unfair card dealt.  Or is it?   Would  I really rather be on the other end, CRAVING something ALL DAY, EVERYDAY and having someone else be in charge of when and how I get it.  Maybe someday (probably not in this life) I'll understand the point of all this madness, but till then I'll keep being that hole.  And in case you're wondering, we've tried it all short of seeing a professional.  Still sucks.