Friday, August 29, 2008
Sex: Apparently I'm supposed to like it
Yeah, I'll say it. I hate sex. I'm happily married. I was a virgin when I got married at age 25. I have quite conservative values. I made out with many a guy and thought I couldn't wait for sex. What the????. UGHHHHH!!!!! My husband is horny allll the time. Anything turns him on. I could brush past him wearing a smelly mumu and he'd get a boner. Why would that flatter me? I'm just a hole to put it in. About those boners: disgusting. This appendage freaking GROWS! And gets HARD. And it becomes predatory. "MUST HUMP. MUST HUMP." And then it vomits. Are you kidding me??? This is what I waited for??? Not to mention that hungry, distant look in his eye as he "goes." Why does this consume his thoughts and desires? I just don't get it. I do orgasm with a little electric help. And a lot of mental escaping. But I don't crave it and I usually whip out the Magic Wand cause it turns him on. Sometimes I count till its over. BTW, my husband is not suffering. He gets his. Oddly enough, I was never molested or abused sexually, but I sure have some bitterness. I feel like a piece of meat. A HUGE percentage of crimes are sexually driven AND predominantly by men. Dirty men. Rapists, pedophiles, peeping-toms, adulterers, man-whores, etc...... . They can't seem to control themselves. And I have to suspect that men are in charge of the media distortion of sex. Sex is NOTHING like you see in movies. And how many men are tricked into believing that women want it, need it, crave it just as much as men? All the girls on tv do, right? Truth is, in my circles, its an open topic and only a minority of my female friends do more than tolerate sex. The fact is that 40-some percent of women have some sort of sexual disorder. They have to WORK to enjoy it and get past something! And another huge percent are just "whatever" to it. They might like it when it starts but don't crave it. Some may actually like it. But despite what TV says, very few are nypho's or women who even come close to having the typical male desire (although I have one friend who loves it and says she has movie sex with her husband). So why do loads of women work to like something we inherantly don't? For the men that we love. Somehow we understand they need it so we try to give it. But talk about an unfair card dealt. Or is it? Would I really rather be on the other end, CRAVING something ALL DAY, EVERYDAY and having someone else be in charge of when and how I get it. Maybe someday (probably not in this life) I'll understand the point of all this madness, but till then I'll keep being that hole. And in case you're wondering, we've tried it all short of seeing a professional. Still sucks.
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Sad, Sad, Sad. For all the women out there who feel this way..and men..I guess there are probably men. They just don't want to admit it. I am so grateful to you for opening my eyes to this epidemic. I HAD NO CLUE. It feels right to me that my sex life is what it is. I too was a virgin before marriage and then I finally understood why I was suppose to wait, save myself, as did my husband (save himself and understand). The incredible bond that sex creates between us and the passion-oh the passion! I don't believe that sex was meant to be a point of contention or burden to either in a relationship, but I realize now that in many--possibly most--it may be. I've heard that we are the only animals that have sex for recreation...maybe that isn't entirely true in many relationships (it certainly is in mine, but I must say I am NOT a sex addict or anything of the sort). I want to change that, although I know I cannot. Is it bad for me to advertise that I like it, or just mean. Knowing I cannot change it for other women, I VOW TO BE MORE GRATEFUL. I want every woman to experience sex how I believe it was meant to be experienced, how I experience it. Incredibly amazing, tear-jerking goodness! For both of us!!!!
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